Arrange Marriage

Question: Discuss about theArrange Marriage. Answer: Introduction The core purpose of this study is to establish the concept of arrange marriage in the context of Indian culture. In order to provide a brief understanding about this specific concept, the movie Monsoon Wedding is considered here as the case study. Through analyzing the case study, the aspects of arrange marriage is elaborated well here. Along with that, the study concentrates on another aspect that is child abuse in the Indian society. Besides, it elaborates the Indian customs and values as well as the impact of westernization on Indian culture. This particular movie had been directed by Mire Nair and released in the year 2001. The movie was blend with the Indias traditional and cultural ideas with the contemporary elements of foreign culture. The movie won the Golden Lion Award for the Best Film at Venice Film Festival and celebrated a huge success for achieving blockbuster hit in the United States (Serpytyte and Agne). Concept of Arranged Marriage The movie Monsoon Wedding mainly focused on the arrange marriage where traditional Hindu wedding event of Punjabi families is portrayed. The two central characters of the movie are Hemant Rai and Aditi Verma. Hemant Rai is the groom and Aditi Verma is the bride who embraced the traditional Indian marriage culture. Both the families are categorized as upper middle class. However, besides the main characteristics, some other couples love stories have been showcased also. Before engaging with Hemant, Aditi has a past relationship with her married boss Vikram. Initially, Aditi was unaware about the fact that Vikram is continuing extra marital relationship. After knowing the fact, Aditi decided to walk away from the relationship and getting engage in arrange relationship. Aditi has confessed about her old affairs to Hemant in order to make him know about her past. Her honesty towards her present relationship made Hemant glad. Subsequently, they decided to be into a mutual relationship and agreed to share a bond between them. Strier, Roni and IlhamZidan discussed that there were many forms in which a marriage takes place before in the Indian culture. However, in the present era, two specific aspects of marriages are followed. These two aspects include arrange marriage and love marriage. Arrange marriage is essentially planned and fixed by the families, whereas, in love marriage, the two persons chose each other and enter into a marriage. Arrange marriage is the most traditional for of mutual relationship, whereas the love marriage came from the western culture (Chadda, Rakesh and Deb). Witte and John added that in western culture, people believe to make marriage decision from their own. As per the western culture, the love marriage is prioritized and nowadays the culture is being embraced in the Indian culture. However, the majority of Indians still believe in getting involved in arranged marriage where not only two members decide their future, but also their families do by mutual understanding (Strier, R oni and IlhamZidan). Most of the Indians believe that the western culture would not make the relationship healthy as the arrange marriage does. This is one of the reasons that Aditi in the film decided to involve in arrange marriage rather than moving on another pre marital affair. As per her viewpoint, this would be the most right decision for her future. Unlike these people, some other people are there that find the love marriage is better than the arrange marriage. As per their viewpoints, the love marriage establish better relationship as they are able to know each other before getting involved in marriage relationship. In the respective movie, besides the arrange marriage of the main characters, another arrange marriage is focused where the Delhi family prepared wedding for their daughter with a boy who is a software engineer in Houston. It revealed the blend of traditional and contemporary culture between India and foreign countries. The film also illustrated the influence of westernization in India and the resistance of the Indians to globalization. Here, the study concentrates on the positive aspects of the arrange marriage as the movie considered the good side of the arrange marriage. The major positive side of arrange marriage is less stress and anxiety about the married life. This is because in arrange marriage the two families make mutual decision to becoming one. Here, no stress is there for getting approval from the parents. As the families play the prime role in fixing the relation, the couple would not to be worried about the likes and dislikes of their families. Better mutual understanding is made in the arrange marriage. In this context, some controversies are there, which means some believe that love marriage establish better understanding between the parties, where some believes it is possible in the arrange marriage. As the parents choose the partners for their son or daughter, they consider all the factors to make a perfect match between them. Thus, in most of the cases, their common beliefs and values establish g ood compatibility. In Indian society, people choose arrange marriage to feel closer to the families as well as the Indian culture which is highly traditional and renowned. The movie concentrates on another aspect that is child abuse which is a bitter truth to be accepted in any society. The brother-in-law of Lalit, introduced as the father of Aditi, is characterized as the name Tej Puri in the movie. He flirts with a young girl named Aliya who is ten years old young girl. It has been shown in the movie that Tej Puri, an adult, tries to get a child for sexual pleasure. This is a psychiatric disorder which is also known as Pedophilia (Kleinman and Paul). This is shown to demonstrate how child molestation affects the psychology of a child very badly. Conclusion The study concludes that the westernization in context of marriage affects the Indian culture. However, the study has found that most of the Indians still embrace the positive aspects of arrange marriage and getting involved in this traditional culture. Apart from this, the study illustrates about the child abuse which is one of the bitterest fact against which strict action should be taken. Bibliography Beebe, John. "At The Movies Monsoon Wedding . Directed By Mira Nair . Screenplay By Sabrina Dhawan .".The San Francisco Jung Institute Library Journal21.1 (2002): 75-78. Web. Chadda, Rakesh K., and Koushik Sinha Deb. 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